The Secrets Reveal (Back Pain In Sex - Part 2)

This is it! Here, I will discuss how a proper position during sexual intercourse avoid back pain.

When standing up straight and/or bending backwards (extension) feels better?

For example, if a man with lower back pain prefers “extension” then he can use the missionary position, with the woman bending her knees toward her chest. For this to work, the man has to support himself on his hands so his back is extended or bent backwards more. Or she can straddle him (facing away or towards him) while he lies on his back with a pillow under his lower back or he may sit in a sturdy armless chair.

A woman with this type of lower back pain may want to lie on her stomach with a pillow under her chest, allowing her partner to enter her from behind. Or she can straddle him - facing toward him or away - as he sits in a chair, which lets her control both the position of her lower back and her movement. She can also use the missionary position, supporting her lower back with a rolled up towel or flat pillow and being careful not to bend her legs up too far, or perhaps bend one leg towards her shoulder and to the side slightly. Do not pull too much for this may flatten the low back and cause more flexion.

When bending forward (flexion) feels better?

A man with lower back pain who prefers flexion may be more comfortable entering his partner from behind as they both kneel on the bed. Or, the woman can kneel on the edge of the bed, facing in, while he enters from behind, allowing him to bend forward as he stands. Also, they can lay in a side-lying position with him entering from behind (sometimes called the fetal position or spooning).

A woman with this kind of lower back pain may want to try the missionary position, keeping her knees bent and pulled towards her armpits. The more she brings her knees upward, the more the spine will bend. If she opts to straddle the man, she should bend forward and put her chest against his.

Anyone who suffers from severe back pain should lie on his or her back on a relatively firm surface with pillows supporting the knees and head, with a small rolled up towel placed under the lower back. A position where both partners are on their sides may also work.

For some people, positions that allow genital intercourse may simply be too painful. In this case, partners can try other options that are less taxing on the back, such as massage, gentle touching or oral sex.

As a rule, the partner with lower back pain should take a passive role in lovemaking, with the other partner introducing stimulation in a very relaxed manner. Just remember to take it slow. And identify as specifically as possible which movements are comfortable and which ones hurt and should be avoided.

Trying new positions can be a rewarding journey of exploration that leads to a new intimacy between partners. Just because back pain may limit one’s physical abilities, it doesn’t have to limit sensuality. Never underestimate the power of candlelight and soft music. And as an added benefit, restoring healthy sexual relations will lower stress, and lower stress often leads to less pain.